In this blog I would like to talk about divorce parties. Divorce
parties are still considered to be a contradictory subject, even though they are
becoming more and more popular as time passes by. It also might sound weird for
a wedding planner to speak of such a subject. I love organizing any types of
celebrations and parties, and I personally find the idea of a divorce party to
be a good way to celebrate the beginning of a new life.
I don't believe there are people out there, who would
dream about their divorce and anticipate it. Unfortunately, not everyone of us
have the luck of meeting their "one and only" on the first try,
moreover to marry him or her. Sometimes people get married too young, too soon,
too excited to actually see who they are marrying. Sometimes circumstances lead
to a loving couple separating. Whatever the reason for a divorce might be, it
is not a pleasant time for those getting it. This is why, when the time a
right, a divorce party is a good way to leave the bitterness of the separation
behind.
In my opinion, a divorce party is a great way to
celebrate the transaction into your new life. It is not mean, it is not
shallow, it is not meaningless. The same way we could celebrate our leaving
from a job we hated, or that we finally decided to move from a house that
didn't quite suit us, celebrating the end of an unhappy marriage is a great way
to start your new life on a happy note.
Divorce parties are not meant to get nasty about your ex
spouse, say bad things about him or her, burn his or her stuff and be generally
mean to a person you used to love and be in love with. It is meant to have a
good time with close friends, and even family, if they don't mind attending
such a party. It is a reason to have fun, dance, create positive memories to
replace the sad ones.
As I see it, a divorce party is not a way to get over
your ex spouse, but a way to celebrate that you have finally gotten over him or
her and ready to start your new life. I don't believe it is a good idea to make
the party a week after you decided to separate, as you probably won't feel
really excited at that point. As a rule, break ups are followed by sad thoughts,
a reminiscing of the love you used to have. Taking all those negative emotions
and mixing them up with alcohol consumption, will most probably have disastrous
results. As mentioned above, the divorce party is meant to celebrate your new
life, not cry over the life you used to have. Better wait until you are over
the break up to throw such a party.
Some divorces end in good terms, and the ex-spouses
remain good friends. Just because you couldn't make it as husband and wife, it
does not mean you shouldn't stay good friends. If this is your case, and if you
both feel comfortable with it, you could even have the divorce party together. This
way you will be able to show your common friends that you are in good terms,
and that there won't be a reason for them to feel weird when hanging out with
either of you.
It is not a good idea to have your children attending the
party, regardless of their age. Even if you ended up your marriage in perfectly
good terms with your ex spouse, it is still a traumatic experience for your
children and they won't understand this celebration. Arrange for them to stay
at their grandparents or any other relative, and have fun without them.
To sum up, I believe that divorce parties are a good way
to celebrate your new life, and a good excuse to have a fun evening full of
positive emotions and memories after a sad period of your life Have a gathering
with friends at your house, go to nice club, or even organize a nice trip to a
country you like, to make it even more fun. Live your life to the fullest, and
don't let bad moments ruin your future.
I would be really interested in learning your opinion on
the matter, so feel free to comment or send me an email expressing your
thoughts on divorce parties.
In Thursday's post I will share some ideas on how you
could "shake-off" your divorce in Santorini and start your new life
feeling fresh and happy.
Thank you for reading, and I wish you a lovely day!
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