Hello my dear readers!
I'm terribly sorry for being absent for the past two
Random Saturdays, but at some point I ended up having 3 jobs, only one of which
paid me some money (in case you wonder, it was the bakery, the horse riding,
and Cardoon… with the bakery giving barely enough money to sustain myself), and
I just didn't have any willpower to force myself spend a couple more hours at
the computer, instead of falling asleep.
The good news are - I quit the bakery job, for various
different reasons, one of which is not being able to pay enough attention to my
sweet Cardoon Events' blogs. Then I took a week to relax after everything I had
to endure at that amazing job, and
now I'm back on track!
While being at the job, and from some other various
incidents of my life, I've started thinking how important it is to speak and to
listen. It is not a coincidence, that this particular phrase is present at the
ready wedding vows that are used here in Santorini.
Why I believe speaking, or in other words letting people
know what is going on in your head, and listen to what others have to say to is
so important? Because we have a mouth, two ears, and an evolved brain!!
Everyone is different, everyone has his or her own
reaction to life situations! For example, if someone brakes a glass, one can
cry, other can laugh, some might swear and some might ignore it and just clean
the mess. We all have our own triggers, and when we are not letting the people around
us know about our triggers, bad situations might occur. To give an example,
again, I have a weird attachment to my coffee cup, whether that be at my house,
at the office, or anywhere else I might drink coffee frequently. So if I choose
to have a certain cup for my coffee, it will make me feel uncomfortable for
someone else to take said cup for their own coffee. How I see it, I'm obliged
to inform my coworkers about the coffee cup situation, to avoid any stupid
conflicts in the future.
But it's not just with coffee cups and other minor peculiarities
each and everyone has. When in a relationship, if something bothers you, you
should tell your partner about that, rather than just lashing on him/her out of
the blue, after keeping all your negative emotions bottling up. The other
person might not notice that an certain action is annoying to you, and with you
telling him/her that, will help solve the problem without any fights.
At your job, you should speak to your employer and
coworkers about any problems and concerns regarding the job you might have. Yes,
not all bosses like to hear complaints from their employees, let alone do something
about then, still, if it is something, that can improve your quality of life at
work, or even better your results at work, why not discuss that with your boss?
Solve your problems, before they become bigger!
Speak up your mind, don't be afraid to express your
feelings. The only way for others to understand you, is by speaking to them!
Verbal communication in us, humans, is the key for better understanding!
As important as it is to speak, it is equally important
to listen to what others have to say! Don't interrupt midsentence, don't start
arguing before thinking about what the other has to say, don't ignore. Sit and
listen to what the person next to you has to say to you, silently!
Sometimes all we need to do, to make someone else's life
better is listen to his/her story. For example, you life partner might had a
long day at work, and really, like reeeeeally needs to complain about all the
bad things that happened. Let her/him speak to you. Don't make suggestions,
don't tell to just get it over, don't try to avoid the conversation telling
that everyone have bad days. Make a cup of tea, or even better, a cup of hot
cocoa, and listen to your other half.
If you are an employer, a manager, or you are in any high
position at work, listen to your employees. Just because you have power over
the people you work with, does not mean that you should disregard what they
have to say. Sometimes, you can get the best idea from a person least except,
or solve unpleasant situations that make everyone's life difficult. And of
course, if you are an employee, listen to your boss. Maybe they have to be hard
on you, because the previous workers didn't pay attention to what he/she had to
say, causing easily avoided problems.
Before criticizing, or plain ignoring, what the other
person has to say, wait and think about it. We all think differently, that's
why we don't always agree with each other. Ask for clarifications (coming back
to the speaking part real sneaky) if you don't understand something, invest
some time into thinking over the opposite opinion. You will be surprised when
you realize that, more often than not, the only reason you disagreed in the
first place, was because you just didn't try to look into the logical part of
what was said, but reacted only because of emotion.
I can go on and on for a long time, so I'll stop here,
hoping I've made my point.
Why am I saying all this? Because at the job at the
bakery, the most problems with the boss and the stuff, happened because either
someone didn't speak, or someone refused to listen. The same goes for my
personal relationship. After we started talking with my boyfriend more about
our feelings, and listening to what the other has to say, we've been much
better and happier with each other.
That's all I have to say. I would be glad to discuss this
topic further with you, so feel free to leave a comment your opinion bellow J
Thank you very much for reading! Have a great Sunday!
Ow!! Right!! The song of the week :p
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